- When somebody is hurting, don’t give them advice or try to fix them. Just be present. Your presence is what you are most qualified to give and your presence is what they need the most.
- It is better to forgive and live than to remember and resent.
- You are better off losing your pride over someone you love than you are losing someone you love over your pride. Practice humility.
- When you listen you have one job: listening. Not thinking about a response. Not overtaking. Not daydreaming. Listening. So listen well.
- Just because you disagree with somebody doesn’t mean you have to dislike them. Accept their humanity like God accepts your humanity.
- Put the health of your relationships before your need to be right. When one party wins and one party loses–the relationshiploses.
- You aren’t going to change a toxic person and can’t change any person for that matter. So stop trying. One thing you can do: change your reaction to such people.
- People who are not happy with themselves will never be happy with you. So don’t seek or wait for their approval.
- We cripple people who are capable of walking when we choose to carry them. Stop enabling.
- You don’t have to participate in every fight you are invited to.
- Learn to walk away from people who threaten your self-respect and peace of mind.
- Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do.
- Conflict doesn’t work itself out. Some conversations are going to be difficult.
- Tough conversations are rarely about getting the facts straight. They are about conflicting interpretations, perceptions, and values.
- The most important approach to a tough conversation any of us can take is this: moving our internal stance from “I understand” to “help me understand.”
- People change over time. You will never talk to the same person twice.
- Direct communication leads to deep community. Be clear and authentic in your conversations.
- Vulnerability is the parent of courage, change, and connecting. Be vulnerable.
- Positive emotions produce kindness, humility, and wisdom. Negative emotions produce arrogant, irrational, fools. Be positive
- Don’t forget to love yourself. Then bring your best self into the relationship.
- Don’t take the other party in the relationship for granted. Appreciate them well and appreciate them often.
- The highest performing relationships have two things in common: praying and playing. Do both.
- Agree that you will not always agree. Celebrate that different flowers make a bouquet and bouquets are more beautiful than a bunch of the same flowers grouped together.
- All relationships go through valleys. The best relationships don’t stay there. They climb mountains and enjoy the journey to and the view from the top.
- Two is better than one and three is better than two. Invite and welcome God into all your relationships.
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